MY FAMILY IS TEARING APART!? IM VERY WORRIED AND SAD! PLEASE HELP!?
Question by Puppy Lover: MY FAMILY IS TEARING APART!? IM VERY WORRIED AND SAD! PLEASE HELP!?
hi, well my parents never really got along… when i was 2 my dad started cheating on my mom… that was a major change number 1… he would fight and yell at my mom lots more too… now im 11… between the time period things have been going OK when i was younger… now things are a total disaster!
now things are really bad! heres what happened like 3 days ago
my parents fought and my dad left.. we dont know “where” he went but obviously he went to Oaklahoma to gamble cause that night he WASTED 200$ .. either that or he used that money for food.. but i highly doubt anyone will spend 200$ on food for 2 days…
anyways he came back today… in the afternoon..
so im like eh ok..i gave him a hug and “hi”
what disturbed me was what my mom told me 10 mintues ago she said that her nad my ‘dad’ made an agreement.. where my mom will leave and go back to korea (we’re asians) and stay there probably cause she has this eye problem and she needs surgery and time to heal… while my ‘dad’ is going to stay with us take care of us… but in the meantime my mom said she wants to cherish the last moments she will have with us… which will be a month…
this isn’t shocking news.. all my life ive been told something similar to this all my life.. im so used to hearing this… sometimes my mom or dad will be gone for a few days and come back… then the cycle will happen all over again!
but if you read closely you will know my dad cheats on my mom… one time i saw her when my mom and sister went to korea and my dad and i stayed home she was outside in that ugly jeep.. i was so shocked that i just walked back inside.. now i realized i could have done worse.. if i see her one more time she’ll know better than to come to my house… but my mom has been in so much pain.. my mom said she would get a divorce when i moved out but she said that she may not be able to wait that long..im now worried AGAIN.. if my mom will leave and i’ll be stuck with my ‘dad’ and possibly that crazy woman.. if i see her one more time in person i will be nice then when we are alone i’ll show her whose allowed to ‘date’ my ‘dad’…
but what do i do?
my mom knows what im going through im so used to this yet i need help!!!
PLZ HELP!!
THANX
HELLO101: my dad will get mad and storm off..;.i dont even want to think of my dad as actually being my ‘dad’ he ‘loves’ me i guess but hes dont so mcuh bad things that ive come to not thnk of him as my dad.. i know im being rude and mean but hes done SO many bad things i cant even post up here!! and besides it will probably take you weeks to read all of it… i just feel like i shouldnt have been born at all.. at school im so nice and happy.. not showing what i really feel but the again im totally different at school then at home im more happy and i forget all the bad things at my house
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Answer by HELLO101
sweetie im so sorry. ok well this is what you have to do. one day when both your parents are home tell them to sit down with you. say that you cant take this anymore from them and you know that your family is tearing apart. tell them you ant to remain a family and become happy, but your dad has to cooperate as well. and that means no going out with other women. possibly suggest therapy? just let them know that you love them so much and you want them to stay together more than anything in the world. and that your tired of watching your mom suffer everyday like this. hope everything goes well. ILL PRAY FOR YOU.
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What’s YOUR opinion on online dating? *Please no fighting =]*?
Question by : What’s YOUR opinion on online dating? *Please no fighting =]*?
I was thinking about this earlier. Not like E-harmony, but like those teen versions, because I’m a teen. Like social networking for teens (Meez.com, and even myspace) I’m in fact dating someone online. Which I’ve also done before, so I might be a bit biased.
I think it’s okay, as long as you don’t get TOO attached. I did once, and took out every thing they did to me on myself, know that they already were doing it (ha, it reminds me of Tool Academy 2). But I think it’s okay. And you have to follow those “online dating” rules. Like if you meet someone bring another someone, preferably someone older. And meet somewhere public. I took my mom with me to meet my online bf last year at the state fair (it was a TOTAL diaster). But I think it is perfectly fine =]
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Answer by Rain
I think it’s very cool that you brought your mom with you! I think that was perfectly fine. You are a teen and you should bring an adult with you if you go to meet someone. Nothing wrong with online dating, but you are young, so just be careful. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders though, and it really is a good idea to bring an adult with you like your mom. 
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A good title for a “say no to sex” poster? Please help? (^_-)?
Question by : A good title for a “say no to sex” poster? Please help? (^_-)?
In health class, I have to make a poster about choosing and promoting abstinence.
We have to include stuff like, ways to say no to sex.
So, what would be a very catchy, and really cool title? =]
A bunch of people have stuff like: “Say no to sex”
But I want to make it very original, and different.
Thank you, and take care!
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Answer by Rebecca Boo
“Don’t have sex..Or you WILL DIE .”
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Please check the grammar and content? It’s only two sentences?
Question by SoCal Girl Forever: Please check the grammar and content? It’s only two sentences?
For instance, Alan Cohen, the article writer of “Education Is the Best Way to Protect Children on Social Networking” stated, “In 2000, the same year that a study by the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children found that one in five children who use the Internet has been sexually solicited online” (Cohen).
Should there be a comma at the end of the article I quoted? (Networking,”)
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Answer by Anastasia
I think it looks great, just usually the word “is” isn’t suppose to be capitalized in a situation like “Education IS the Best Way…”
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Help with asking a girl cell #? Help please?
Question by rob: Help with asking a girl cell #? Help please?
so i’ve met this girl recently at a school related meeting and we both had fun time. I know this b/c one of her friend told my freind about it. She is on my “Social networking” thing like facebook, hi5 etc. I start off by saying hi and she replied and then i when i asked if shes bz she was like i have hw. next time she asked hows my day after i asked abt her. I went on to chat more but she wasnt online anymore.
So i don know if it will be okay to ask her #? and how should i approach that question?
Thank you all for your great answer so next time i talk I would go ahead and ask her. im nervous what if she ignores me.
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Answer by xxsarahxxb
Tell her you dont have a phone number jeez
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Q&A: Can anyone help me translate an English wedding prayer into Hebrew please?
Question by : Can anyone help me translate an English wedding prayer into Hebrew please?
I’m looking to have this prayer (modern version of the seven blessings) used at my wedding but need the Hebrew transliteration and English pronunciation of the Hebrew words…hoping someone can do this or knows a website that will help with it.
“May your marriage enrich your lives.”
“May you work together to build a relationship of substance and quality.”
“May the honesty of your communication build a foundation of understanding, connection and trust.”
“May you respect each others individual personality and philosophy, and give each other room to grow and fulfill each others dreams.”
“May your sense of humor and playful spirit continue to enliven your relationship.”
“May you understand that neither of you is perfect; you are both subject to human frailties; and may your love strengthen when you fall short of each others expectations.”
“May you be best friends and lovers, better together than either of you are apart. Blessed are you, Eternal our G-D, who rejoices with the bride and groom. Amen.”
Thanks in advance!
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Answer by Slus
This is very nice. Congrats!
“mi yiten venisueikhem yaashiru et khayekhem”
“mi yiten vetaavdu yakhdav libniyat maarekhet yekhasim mashmautit ve’eikhutit”
“mi yiten vehatikshoret hakena beynekhem tehave’ tashtit lehavana, kesher ve’emun”
“mi yiten vetekhabdu ze et ishiyutio ve’et tfisat olamo shel ze, ta’aniku ze laze makom lizmoakh vetagshimu ze et khalomotav shel ze”
“mi yiten vekhush hahumor shelakhem verukhakhem hatova yamshikhu leafiakh khaim benisue’eikhem”
“mi yiten vetavinu se’af ekhad mishneikhem eino mushlam; shniekhem netunim lekhulshot enosh; umi yiten veahavatkhem tekhazek etkhem baregaim bahem lo taamdu ze betzipiyotav shel ze”
“mi yiten vetihyu re’im veahuvim ["re'im veahuvim" is from the original text], ve’yitav lakhem beyakhad yoter me’asher levad, barukh ata adonai eloheinu melekh haolam, mesameakh khatan im hakala [orogianl text, of course]. amen.”
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Q&A: Need help please!!!!!! Is it normal for a girl to iniate wanting to have “sex” first? How can ladies go about?
Question by Feeling Blue: Need help please!!!!!! Is it normal for a girl to iniate wanting to have “sex” first? How can ladies go about?
I have always wanted to inniate wanting to have sex, but never get the nerve to ask. I want to be somewhat in charge, but am afraid that my guy will get the feeling of being smothered!!
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Answer by scott o
Just go for it and if he pushes you away hes either 1.Gay or 2.Not attracted to you.Either way just go for it.
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Q&A: Can someone please help console me? (long)?
Question by : Can someone please help console me? (long)?
Been dating a man the past 9 months. He’s 37, no kids; I’m 32 no kids. About 3 months ago we had a ‘talk’ about us & I found it a little confusing: I asked about his feelings on him committing (being in a relationship) versus us continuing on ‘dating’. I told him that dating to me meant we’re not exclusive. He said he ‘wanted to wait.’ I asked 4 clarification & he said he ‘wanted 2 see how we were over time and different situations.’ I felt like I was pressuring him for ‘yes’ or ‘no’, and because he didn’t give a simple ‘yes i want it to be just us’..I took that as he’s not ready to label us or commit to being in a relationship.
I decided to talk to him about us last night because I’ve had a ‘bad’ feeling about us (don’t know why; I just have a very strong intuition. The next part is long…so this is what happened:
I got clarity that he understood since our last ‘talk’ that I was open to/ready to be exclusive with him. And that I was right in my conclusion that by him saying he wanted to ‘wait’ meant he was not ready to commit. He told me that he had us on his mind and wanted to talk about it in person and wanted to ‘mull it over’. I said I understand he wants to be able to think his answers through and state them in an eloquent fashion, but I said that it was more important he just tell me his thoughts and feelings as opposed to waiting.
I stated that by continuing to date him knowing that nothing has changed (I still desire the commitment; he doesnt)..means that I am taking on a lot of risk-the risk that my feelings will get hurt because I’ve already developed feelings to the point where I am ready to be in a relationship. I let him talk for awhile without saying anything: he said that when it comes to deciding on a partner that it would be someone he spends the rest of his life with, and that he ‘wanted to make sure he was in a place where he can love the woman with all of his heart and the way the woman needs and deserves to be loved.’
I asked him has he been seeing other women and he said yes. I asked if he was still dating other women right now & he said yes. He said he wasn’t dating them “like how he and I are dating”.but I didn’t inquire as to what that meant. Didn’t really care because all that matters is he’s still seeing other people and I don’t have the desire to see others. He asked us about talking about it one-on-one and..although I had assumed he’d been seeing other women..2 hear him say it really hit me in the heart last night. I realized at that very moment that there was nothing to talk about. Since meeting I’ve seen him every weekend minus about 3 and holidays when I traveled out of town. He’s spent New Years Eve, V-day, our birthdays and other holidays with me since meeting. He has changed over time a little bit by increasing his communication with me and giving more complements, all while continuing to initiate dates with me every week.
But at that moment he told me about thdating other women I realized that we are on 2 separate pages. 
And I feel silly for not heeding things he’s said in the past now (for instance, he mentioned he ‘let’ the 1 woman he was in love with go..that she wanted to progress the relationship and he didn’t so someone else came along and married her). I knew in the back of my mind then that the likelihood of this materializing into a commitment was very low but still dated him.
I just don’t understand why he would put this kind of effort into something he didn’t want to commit to…it’s ‘felt’ like we’ve been in a relationship this whole time…just without the ‘label’ so to speak.
When I expressed 2 him that I couldn’t go on this way, because we are on different pages and that he doesn’t want from me what I want from him, he strongly disagreed several times. He keeps saying he “hasn’t decided”. And 2 that I say: his lack of a decision means he ‘has’ decided: this isn’t what he wants; he’s just in denial about expressing it or doesn’t want to express it because that means at this point that I will leave. Because IMO we’ve spent enough time together for him 2 know if he can commit to me or not & right now it’s obvious he cant..and I just don’t see it being likely his feelings are going 2 change anytime soon..all while other people are also still involved.
Near the end of the convo he said he couldnt tell what the future holds but that basically he couldn’t see us ‘not’ in each other’s lives and that he doesn’t let people in like how he’s done with me. He went on 2 say that he didn’t think I’d understand how hard it’s going to be not having me in his life anymore.
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This feels like a breakup but I can’t even call it that because we weren’t really even ‘together’. I’m sad, upset, confused, frustrated and feeling rejected right now. Despite all that he said if he really wanted me he would not just ‘let me go’…but he has, so I have no choice but to grieve and move on. I realized last night I think I actually loved this man.
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Answer by BobbiBlu
He sounds like he has a phobia to commitment. I am pretty certain that if I were dating a man who didn’t know if he loved me enough after that period of time and he was still dating other people that I would be gone. I like a confident man who gives his heart to me, his friendship and his loyalty because this allows me to do the same for him. I don’t like confusion, wishey washy behavior and being with someone who doesn’t love me. Life is lonely and hard enough without feeling alone in your relationship.
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