Can men and women be just friends?

With the age of the Internet, relationship and networking site now online dating we have a more open view perspective on men and women relationships.

Few things in life lack emotional and psychological controversy and the question of whether or not men and women can be just friends is certainly no exception to this in the aspect of relationships. A truly interesting group of individuals, however, have managed to perpetuate this ideal from past generations to modern day times. As inconceivable as the notion may seem to many, there are those who view this ideal as not only possible, but a rather basic course of natural, normal, social development over and above what you may find on the online dating sites or in any relationship articles to be found online.

That the institution of the marriage relationship has managed to survive is testimony to the fact that men and women can be good friends and have a great relationship together. Socializing brings all of us into the close quarters of friendship and if it were not for the ideal of men and women who can manage friendship, moral restraint, human integrity and relational fidelity would have long ago to be too much for the human character especially in these modern times, with the internet dating and relationship sites to boot.

Typically, offspring are produced in the wholesome context of the marriage relationship who are likewise indoctrinated with values that rise above the savage impulses of a less refined culture as it seems to be today with online dating, sex and relationship sites. These offspring account for young and single adults who in turn demonstrate a highly advantageous focus on community minded career paths, higher educational values, and a sober minded regard for the opposite gender.

Such men and women are generally those who are increasingly and skeptically viewed as a privileged caste and, regrettably, are often construed in some cases to be snobs and do gooders. This unusual minority plan for a future; develop and cultivate wholesome social skills and, in their turn marry without the disadvantages of drama and mayhem in their wake. Somehow they manage to bypass the educational classes and courses of study in emotional chaos, illicit behavior and promiscuity being offered in todays society as found with dating online, various relationship sites and various internet sites with a penchant for the same. Consequently, unassuming friendships between men and women are not only made possible, but typical and survive another generation.

Among the most beautiful wonders of the world is the human ability to develop, savor and appreciate friendships with the opposite sex without the cumbersome and painful baggage of juvenile approach to dating and relationships between men and women today even as found online. Contrary to an apparently prevailing trend in the sexualizing of society even through the online relationship profiles, moral integrity still is ever present especially with the Christian dating sites online. The continuation of a stable, civil social infrastructure depends upon the ability of adults to demonstrate adult behavior and a mature regard and respect for one another. Lacking such regard would obviously throw a developing world into an environment not dis-similar to that of sodom and Gomorrah prior to it’s inevitable end in ancient times.

Obviously we live in a world that plays host to a wide variety of nationalities and much is to be found with online relationship and social networking websites, but there remains only two genders: male and female. What this means to us is that we are surrounded everyday by thousands of people who are our gender opposite, many of whom we find ourselves in close working proximity with. At some point we find it necessary to decide how we will choose to relate to our gender opposite and the state of mind we have resigned ourselves to has everything to do with the success or failure of our human experience. Fortunately there is much worthwhile information to found online regarding this at the various relationship websites, blogs and resources for online personal networking and dating such as this site.

For some of us the necessity of making a deliberate decision to develop and exhibit mature behavior regarding the opposite sex is an epiphany. From somewhere deep within an overly stimulated, adolescent imagination the aphorisms Know thyself, and Nothing to excess rise to a conscious level of awareness in one sense of sanity or another. At this juncture the option of men and women actually cultivating benign friendships looms on the horizon as a distinct possibility.

We come away feeling liberated from the mental-emotional constraints of a scandalous social mindset. We emerge from darkened animalistic disregard for self-control and respect for purity to a personal dawn on the concepts of internal peace, moral decency, and relational integrity. And for the first time in the lives of many the notion of men and women sharing society as friends in fidelity is not only a possible option, but welcomed news.

There have been mockers and scoffers of moral purity in every age, era and generation: ours is no different; they too live among us and they know who they are. It is so sad that we can find this online websites that are for relationships and dating. It is most unfortunate that this social element has achieved high levels of exposure and influence from which to foist their corrupted perceptions of human interaction between sexes upon impressionable minds; many of whom have made the senseless, disastrous mistake of turning their mind and heart toward dating for a more physical relationship than a relationship that comes from the heart.

By the lights of this element men and women exist for the exclusive purpose of erotic abandon and every conceivable form of vile degradation. Somewhere between total decadence and moral impeccability, vast multitudes are finding it necessary to discover and decide if men and women can and do coexist as casual acquaintances. While this subject was not within the purview of Shakespeare’s eloquent soliloquy, the question here truly is, to be, or not to be just friends. But its not so much a matter of can we be just friends, its a matter of deliberate choice on the basis of established moral boundaries.

Obviously, and in conclusion the ultimate answer to this question rests with the individual. As individuals, however, we must bear in mind that we increasingly live in a globalized society thanks to the internet and online dating and relationships websites so now our actions have a far reaching impact on society beyond the scope of our personal island paradise. When one voice, one attitude and one code of moral behavior are multiplied 200 million times, we hold within our collective grasp the destiny of a nation and the world. Thanks to social media online and online networking sites such as facebook and myspace.

When contemplating an answer to the question of opposite gender friendships, we become responsible to account for the future quality of a society we wish to preserve for our children. Society has survived the anarchy of immoral dark ages on more than one occasion, but it has done so only because a mature handful of responsible individuals decided that, yes, it is possible for men and women to exist as just friends.

We are just friends.” One of the most common answer we hear when someone asks someone else about her relationship with him. It maybe true, it may not be true. It really all depends on how they feel about each other.

If they are just friends, so what? Why insist that they are not, if they really are just friends. Yes, they care about each other, they have been seen together often and they are just inseparable. Those doesn’t really give us the right to judge them. Only both of them known what is the real score whether they met at online dating site, through social networking online or meeting through normal circumstances.

In reality, there really are a lot of guys and girls who are just friends. Yes, they are simply friends, no more no less. I strongly believe that if you would want to keep someone or have someone for the rest of your life without the need for a commitment, make him/her your friend. When a relationship starts, however, from a dating to mate standpoint this can curtail the possibility of friendship in some cases. Dating online can very well be an example of this hindrance to friendships between men and women.

Is friendship not enough between a man and woman? Should they always go beyond the boundaries of friendship? Of course not. But it all depends on how things would go between both as days or years would pass. There are times where in friends would eventually turn out as lovers, but there are also instances when friends would just stay friends for life. Both situation are the same. Concerned parties both care, love and understand each other. Except for those benefits you gain when you are already together as a couple. Friendship is also a special relationship. It differs from any other relationship since it grasps the entirety of all relationships and is a far cry from the online dating sites that you find on the internet these days, though many very worthwhile, still these relationships take a lot of close personal one on one time to develop.

Some women may have a lot of men friends. Sharing the same passion for things, mutual relationship activities and what is felt for them is nothing beyond friendship. The men and women in these relationship may care and understand each other, but when you see someone as a friend and deep in your heart you knew that you can just be friends, then it is in friendship that it all starts and ends . So it is really up to the parties concerned if they would just want to stay the way things are or move on to the next level. You can always tell whether the relationship is going somewhere or not.

But we can never be certain too. What if something unexpected would happen along the way of friendship. And from she-is-just-someone the feeling suddenly changed to she-is-the-one. And upon realizing that, you still have the choice of moving forward as friends or way beyond that. We all have choices, and those choices eventually determines what we become in the future.

In theory, the concept of ‘just friends’ does exist, though, in practice there are too many obstacles to make it that simple. Conscious or subconscious, at some point during the ‘just friends’ relationship, one or both people involved have thought, ‘what if we were more than just friends?’ This goes for married, dating, and single people alike. Humans, by nature, are curious animals and we want to know ‘what if.’ Although due to different standards that either society, or ourselves, have set, these ‘what ifs’ stay hidden and linger somewhere in the darkness of the relationship. And this can go with men and women alike. Though oftentimes it is the woman who is actively seeking a mate that would potentially want to turn a friendship into a more serious dating relationship and possibly marriage. Though this really does depend on the individuals relationship needs.

These random thoughts and feelings will come and go. They could even feel dormant for long periods of time, but will ignite during certain circumstances. These thoughts could range from a lustful desire for sex, all the way to spending a romantic under the stars holding each other in your arms until the night fades to golden rays of day.

In either case, those are definitely not thoughts that ‘just friends’ should be thinking.

‘Tis a sad truth indeed, for I often times get along with the other sex better than my own, and I would be glad to be ‘just friends’ with a very interesting person who may or may not be in a serious relationship. Of course, at some point feelings begin to pile, thoughts and wonders, and sooner or later a thresh-hold is broke and something happens. Perhaps one of those involved directly mentions that they have had such intimate thoughts. Or perhaps somebody indirectly related such as the boyfriend or girlfriend (or spouse) of one of those involved begins to catch on and starts to disapprove of the relationship you have started.

To either end, the relationship will most likely crash and burn there, or will slowly fade into the past and you will begin to make and/or receive those few and far between phone calls of a dying friendship.

My advice: savor the moment you have, do not fear the end. Enjoy the friendship while it is. And when it does come to that inevitable end, please, remember it as it was, not of what it became.

The answer to this question is not as ‘black and white’ as one may need it to be. It is all relative. There are different levels of friendship and attraction that play a part in this debate.

One mans opinion is that men and women can not be friends. He says that men always in the back of their mind want a sexual relationship. Some women feel that the men are the more sexual of sexes and can be the case though some women disagree.

On the flip side-I have one friend who is male. It seems to work for us. He’s my best friend, truly my other half. Yes, I share things with him that I’d never talk to my husband about. I do not feel guilty about this. I knew him long before I ever met my husband, since we were kids. Our friendship works for many reasons. Mainly because he lives 3000 miles away. I had to tell my husband that my friend is gay, it’s the only way he’d accept my relationship with a male.

That being said, I absolutely find him attractive;because he is a beautiful person, inside and out. He occupies my thoughts constantly.I have forced myself to believe in my heart of hearts that a romantic relationship between us would be destined for failure and that is the only reason I have been able to keep our friendship platonic. He is the one I have measured all others against and because of that I try keep him at a distance.

In conclusion,from experience, there are males that women can be just friends with. It all depends on the level of your emotional connections and physical attraction. As with most things regarding friendship, it’s all relative.

One recently composed article relating to this topic really was an eye opener to just how socially confusing men and women can be. It’s crazy to think that after millions of years of coexisting we are still struggling to communicate with each other and having to go to relationship websites and psychological research on relationships to learn more about how to relate better. I also realized just how much evolution played a role in gender relations today. It is true that males and females originally were made to mate and therefore the relationship was strictly sexual. Now, we want to have friendships that have nothing to do with sex and it isn’t natural to human nature. Feelings of attraction towards the opposite sex or whatever sex you are attracted to are part of every day life and you can’t help that. However, we have the ability to control that attraction and not act on it. After all, when sex comes into play, it only makes every relationship more complicated.

Some women say they have experiences with friends of the opposite sex becoming more than just friends. There have been experiences where we tried something more and then talked about it and decided to be just friends because that is what worked best. Other women also have had male friends that I have never thought of as anything more than great pals. So, I do believe it is possible to be friends with the opposite sex; I just think it is usually complicated. Chances are, somewhere along the way, one person will start wanting more. I have had many friendships die due to them wanting more than I wanted to give. Some women have many male friends, yet society has an idea that if a woman is hanging out with men all the time she is a slut. Therefore, many a woman have dealt with thier share of rumors due to friendships but just shrug it off. Most of these womans friendships, you may have noticed, are ones that involve innocent flirting. Maybe flirting is one of the only ways men and women know how to deal with each other comfortably. A lot of women find it easier to be friends with gay guys. An interesting thought.