Men and Women Friendships
Is the wealth / lack thereof of a guy, an important attribute in determining who you will go out with ( and possibly, if it gets serious, marry?), or whether if you’ll be attracted to?
Please don’t take this question as if it were judging you in any way.
Answering this question honestly is in no way implying that you are shallow, a gold digger, a liar, a 2 timer, etc. Everyone has their preferences and opinions, and are certainly entitled to it.
Lots of men (and me included) are very interested in listening about what women have to say about this topic.
… and please, answer only if you’re 20 yrs +.
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All your life you were single but now there is somebody who makes you meditate on having a serious relationship. There are signs that show you even think of marriage:
1. You trust her
All your existence you showed no trust in women. This time you changed your attitude, you trust this woman, you instantly tell her everything important and you even let her solve things for you, without hesitation or thinking this is a mistake.
2. She gets along well with your friends
You introduce her to all your friends and they welcome her into the group. Not only that they like her but they ask you to come together at all group reunions.
3. She has fun with your “crazy” family
You freak out at the idea of introducing some of your relatives to her, like an uncle who is a heavy drinker, or a cousin who criticizes everybody, but you realize she accepts them the way they are.
4. You forget about your pals
Since you two have been together, being with the boys was not an urgent need. You like being with her so you spend a lot of time together. Sometimes you even accompany her for a shopping trip.
5. You do not think about your ex anymore
You have not been thinking about your ex lately, although you used to do it quite often. Now you have her, your new girlfriend to be concerned with.
6. You get angry when people don’t talk nicely about her
Even if your mother, father or friends have things to say against her, you react and position yourself on her side. You don’t allow anybody to say unkind words about your girlfriend.
7. You realize you can’t live without her
She tells you she has to leave town for a few days and you freak out. Why? She will not be with you day and night; you will not be together anymore. A few days seem like eternity.
8. You cook for her
Even if you hate cooking, you do it like a real chef. You search for recipes, call your mother and grandmother to check on details…everything to prepare a perfect dinner to impress her.
9. You lack concentration
In the past you were productive and creative at the job, now it is difficult to focus on things; your thoughts are about her. You can hardly wait to meet her.
To make a long story short, you are madly in love with this woman and think about being with her for the rest of your life.
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Online Dating: Whoa! Slow Down Just A Bit
by Phil McCloud
Dating can be one of the toughest things we ever do, but it can also be one of the most fun things. Dating has changed so much over the years. I can recall getting all dressed up, borrowing my dad’s car to pick up my date for our high school prom. Back then, you bought a corsage, pinned on her (if your fingers weren’t shaking to bad) and promised her dad you’d have her home by 11. Then you did your best to make sure she was home on time cause if you didn’t, chances are she’d not be allowed to go out with you again, even if she wanted to.
Dating has gone through a total transformation. Now, you text someone, email someone or chat online with them. Gone are the days where romance involved a rose, a glass of wine (for adults) and the gleam in each other’s eye as they looked into each others soul. Now, it’s a smiley face, perhaps a rose drawn in ANSI and steamy words on a computer screen. Sometimes, it might even be as much as a live web cam meeting, but that’s not as common as it could be. How much gleam can you see in one’s eyes looking through a web cam?
Along with the technology that has all but done away with traditional dating, has come a greater problem, that of not being able to tell if one, or the other are serious, or just playing games. After all, how many different IM windows can you open on your computer? It happens more often than you think. A guy, or girl, will be dating 3, 4 or more people at the same time. Not on different nights, but at the same time, on the computer. Oh, but your in love with him (or her). They wouldn’t do something like that. I hope not, but how do you know? How do you know that they are telling you the whole truth?
First, you should never allow yourself to fall in love based on what you know from a chat room or IM. Instead, put your feelings in check until you know more about the person you’re starting to have feelings about. Whether it be a him or her, makes no difference. Both male and female can be as cruel and untruthful as the other. So girls, this in not just for you. And guys, pay attention because you’re just as apt to be emotionally hurt as well. Okay, I’ll admit, feelings cannot be turned on and off like a light switch. I only urge caution until you are confident that you are not being used, or toyed with. The human species can be a cruel lot, but we can also take steps to lessen the hurt by following a few basic steps.
Gather as much information as you can.
Get as much info from the person your interested as you can. Some things you need to know is:
What is their birthday? Where do they live now? Address would be good, if you can get them to give it to you. If they are truly interested in you, that shouldn’t be a problem. Where do they work? Have they ever been married?
This information is going to do two things:
It’s going to give you a sense of how honest they are being with you by the way they react to your question, and it’s going to provide you with the information you will need to check up on them. One of the best things you can do for yourself, is to make sure that they are telling you the truth. You’ve heard the saying, “Love is Blind”? Well, it’s true. We can be so caught up with infatuation that we allow ourselves to believe anything. Our emotions take over the discerning ability of our hearts and minds. It’s called, being human.
We can however, discreetly take steps to make sure that what we’ve been told is really the truth. As I said earlier, it’s all to easy to hide things in words on a screen (it’s not so easy in person). If you going to date online, then use one of the more responsible dating services. Match.com and Chemistry.com are two that come to mind. They have a process whereby they are able to filter out some of the obvious frauds through personality tests done before matches will be provided. Some get through, but without doing a background check, they keep some of the potentially harmful prospects out of the picture. Even with all the progress these two companies have made in providing safe and reliable dating options, there are still a bunch of kooks out there, just waiting to take you for a ride, at your expense.
Regardless of where you found your date, you should always do some preliminary homework. After getting to know your date enough to be able to get the information mentioned above, you should ALWAYS do a background check. This will cost you a minimal amount and will give you the information you need to be able to determine if this a person you wish to pursue a relationship with. When you weight the cost of using Net Detective against the potential pain from heart-break it’s worth the one-time cost of $29.00 for unlimited background searches over a three year period.
And, you shouldn’t feel bad about doing a background check on anyone. It is unfortunate that a man, or woman, is no longer “as good as their word”. With the advancements that have been made in the technology we use to communicate, there has been little done to protect us from those who would choose to disrupt our lives in a cruel, and sometimes violent manner. We can protect ourselves by taking the precautions I’ve mentioned here. Will it help filter everyone who would harm us? No, but it gives you a real solid picture about the person you are interested in.
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‘She said or he said’ is a term that is commonly heard in the case of a rape. This term is applies when there is hardly any factual evidence for the jury to decide. Both women and men think and process any kind of information differently from one another. This problem lies beyond the problem that none of them are probably telling the truth. A relationship which goes well beyond the he said or she said is what is called a successful relationship.
Both women and men think differently when they have to solve problems. Though both of them can solve the problem well, the process through which they go varies from one another. Men consider the best solution to the problem as that which takes the least time and is also most efficient. On the other hand women think that problem solving is an activity which involves people working together and hen coming to a conclusion. For a relationship to work better, one has to understand that the thought process of both go in different directions.
Another major area where there is a difference between women and men is sensitivity. Compared to men, women do have a heightened sensitivity. This leads them to act emotionally than act rationally. The sensitivity of women lets her understand her feelings plus the feelings of others. Hence her reactions consider the feelings also above logic. Men take decisions based only on logic and do not consider feelings at all. This causes problems in a relationship as the women thinks the man tried to hurt her feelings.
Memory is another area where men and women vary. Men can remember locations and other details of an event while women can only remember the emotions attached to it. Unless they realize the difference in the memory of one another, they will have problems in their relationship. When their partner does not remember something, this causes frustration. He or she also gets angry as they think the other person is not able to recollect such vivid memories. Understanding the way each others memory works will help in making the relationship much stronger than what it actually is at the moment.
A relationship gets complicated as women and men differ in their style of communication. Men generally do not discuss things with their partner and are more introspective regarding their problems and deal internally with them. If they do intend on discussing a problem, it would have been after it had been given a lot of thought and also quite a bit of consideration. Women on the other hand discuss their problems with the men with the belief that it helps them understand each other better. Women tend to communicate to get to a solution of a problem. The she said or he said aspects must be understood in the area of communication to avoid disappointment and frustration.
Understanding she said or he said issues and also being ready to get past them will help in reducing the difficulties in a relationship.